What’s More Important – Love or Happiness?

Lisa asks:

I just started listening to you guys for about a month now and I really enjoy your show.

I wanted to know as a couple and as an individual, what is more important to you, love or happiness? Some people choose happiness over love. While some people choose love over happiness.

Would you stay with someone who you love but you are not happy with that person?

I am really looking forward to both of your response.

I wrote back and asked:

Before I answer this, when you say “would you stay with someone,” are you talking about someone you’re dating or someone you married in a the Church (i.e., a Sacramental marriage)?

She wrote back:

It could be someone you’re dating or someone you are married in a Church.

Simple answer – Would I stay with someone I loved but wasn’t happy with?  In the Sacrament of Marriage, absolutely.  If I wasn’t married, but just dating?  Absolutely not.

Dating is not a commitment or a vow.  And if the goal of dating is to get married, and the person you’re with makes you unhappy, I’d recommend getting out of that one.

How would you answer this?

Posted by Greg
April 4, 2011
  • Jeb says:

    Love is more important because it is something you give. Happiness is an outcome, illusive if sought.

  • Greg says:

    Jeb, that was so good it could have come from the inside wrapper on one of those little Dove chocolates.

  • Kathy says:

    Love is by far more important…. because…It’s an action where as happiness is a reaction. But I personally think you have to have one to have the other. whether it’s love of self, or of the man that just “ticked you off”. God’s Love for me makes me a happy person… just as the love of the Man who just “ticked me off” makes me happy. LOL!! So…. I guess they go hand in hand… ya think?

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